Friend is a term used loosely. I often hear people saying “Oh yes, I know he or she, they are a friend of mine” and I wonder if everyone considers what a real friend is or isn’t. Someone who knows your whole story and loves you anyway is surely a friend, but how about someone who becomes such a part of your life that you don’t remember they aren’t technically family. Someone who won’t be mad when you call them in the middle of the night. Someone who borrows money to come and see you in hospital a hundred miles away and when you come home from the hospital all broken and sick, stays up all night just to make sure you don’t stop breathing.
A friend that tells you the truth, yet doesn’t judge you, nor says I told you so when you mess up. A friend who has added so much love to your life that you could never imagine what your life would have been without them. Someone who cries with you and means it.
I am blessed to have such a person in my life and now we have the pleasure of becoming senior citizens together. We are comfortable enough whenever we get together to take naps in our recliners, wake up about the same time, and begin talking just where we left off. We talk of how after getting our driving license, we both took the other to ride first. We talk of husbands and children and now grandchildren and we reminisce about first crushes, first kisses and becoming young brides. We have spent two lifetimes as friends and our lives are so intertwined that it is hard to tell where one stops and the other one starts.
I lost another dear friend to cancer a few years ago and there isn’t one day that goes by I don’t think of her and miss her. Now is the time to tell your friends how much they mean to you, what they have added to your life. How glad you are that they joined you in this journey. Now, do it now!